Setting Boundaries with Grandma: A Lesson I Didn't See Coming

I’ve never really been the “boundaries” type. At least, not until I got older and had kids.

I never thought the day would come where I’d have to set boundaries with my own mum — their grandma — when it came to my girls. But here we are.

I grew up where the “No” came faster than the speed of light. It started with the little things: spoiling them, giving them whatever they wanted, sneaking them chocolate before they even turned one. The list felt endless. At first, I let it slide. After all, that’s what grandparents are known for, right? But eventually, enough was enough.

My kids, my rules.

Growing up, if I had acted like that or pushed the limits, I would’ve gotten a quick slap. So why were the rules so different when it came to her grandkids?

The day finally came when we had to have the conversation. It went something like this:

“I’m the parent. You’re the grandmother. What I say goes.”

No sweets before dinner. No cake just because they’re cute. No bending the rules we’re trying to teach them at home.

Honestly, I was nervous about how it would go — but surprisingly, it went well. She understood. It wasn’t about taking away the fun of being a grandparent; it was about respecting the way I’m choosing to raise my girls.

Setting boundaries wasn’t easy, but it was necessary — and it ended up strengthening our relationship instead of hurting it.

Turns out, the hardest part of parenting isn’t the kids — it’s teaching grandma the rules!

Till Next Time

Unapologetically Black Muva😜

Location: London, UK

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